Funeral Etiquette

After learning of someone’s passing, it’s appropriate to visit the family at home, though the funeral home is often the most suitable place to express your condolences and support. If you’d like to offer comfort before the services take place, simple gestures can mean a great deal, such as bringing food, helping with household needs, offering childcare, or running errands are all thoughtful ways to ease the burden on a grieving family.

This is one of the most common questions asked by those wishing to pay their respects. While no words can truly capture the depth of loss, offering a few sincere, kind words can bring comfort and let the family know you care. It's best to avoid personal grievances or phrases like "they're in a better place," as these may unintentionally cause discomfort during such a sensitive time.

Many people attend funeral services without being familiar with traditional seating arrangements. Generally, the first few rows at both the funeral and visitation are reserved for immediate family. If you are not a family member, it is respectful to choose a seat behind the reserved section.

Punctuality is important when attending a funeral or visitation. Enter the funeral home or venue quietly and respectfully. If attending a visitation, take a moment to offer your condolences to the family before finding your seat. Please silence your cellphone, as using it during the service is considered inappropriate. If you need to respond to a call or message, kindly step outside or into another room.

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to whether a child should attend a visitation or funeral. It depends on their relationship to the deceased, their age, and their ability to behave appropriately during the service. If you choose to bring your child, it's helpful to gently explain what to expect and how they are expected to act, so they feel prepared and comfortable.

Sending flowers to the funeral home or the family’s residence is a thoughtful and appropriate way to express condolences. In some cases, the family may request donations to a specific charity in lieu of flowers. These wishes should always be respected. Providing food to the grieving family is another meaningful gesture of support. A sympathy card is also a heartfelt and affordable way to offer comfort, and there is no specific timeline. Cards are welcome whenever you're ready to reach out.